I get hung up with "no strings attached " phrase because you write it to affirm or prove your arguement. Yet, you have to admit you are attached in whatever way, but you deny deny deny.Having no strings attached only applies to when it is all done and over. Once all contact, gifting, chatting, phone calls, emails,parcels, etc etc end, then the strings are severed. Saying now, that there are no strings attached would be similar to saying I have strings attached in your business.
Which now leads me to your next subtle hint. Yes, you asked me to contact you, but I declined. I have no desire, no need, nor the time and energy, to get involved in your pickle.
You dug your grave, now you are responsible for its upkeep, maintenance and eternal care.
Why should I have some stranger, contact me, then need to learn the sordid details of their motives and others?
I have been involved very intimately with many a camgirl, either, in commercial relationships in the past, and as friends, and one romantically, with and without any commercial exchanges.
I have been invited to meet personally at the models requests physically,in person, as well,on foreign soil. I probably experienced every scenario there can be played out on the world stage of the virtual world of online cam hosting yet you still feel the need to tell me I don't get it. Oh yes, I have had real relationships with women not online too. So what do I not get, Reuters?
I get it, I experienced it, I observed it done with other people I have met, I seen it all , Reuters. I know what you are doing. Trust me for once, and give in a little instead of defending yourself to me. I know more than meets the eyes here.
I know what your intentions are, your motivations, your hopes and what your desires are. After all these years, I have concluded that for women similar to your friends circumstance, that what you do, will simply help her and if it all works out fine and dandy in the end, you hope she will still care for you and that something constructive and meaningful is the end result of all the effort.
These days, I look at things generally, and where there is one, there are others.
You are one of many. She is one of many. You are tickling the tip of the iceberg because of the strings you both decided to attach to each other. I believe that for all the "many" that some other choices, or available options could be provided in a less intrusive manner, yet we, you, I, feel it is better tackled by ourselves in our own ways and methods. I tend to believe there can be alternatives for people such as your friend and the countless others as well. I just am providing an alternative thought or premise to yours.
As far as other people I know intimately, I do not support anyone in the fashion you are hinting to. I might as well marry them and then I can have the unconditional love with strings attached, but I am more realistic and more understanding and knowledgeable to know the difference between mutual respect and boundaries.
I will describe one thing I did do for someone, here(not here as in some member on this forum). I do not care who reads it. I am not ashamed of it nor do I have any intimate intrusive strings attached with this person albeit, I just randomly, provided help to one individual.
I helped a person, re-apply back into the university they were attending, because they did not have the funds to re-apply. I helped them pay for their share of their rent, because her boss, withheld, hers and the entire studios salaries(8 models), because some greedy person, stole one of the computers in their studio. So the studio boss, kept all the girls salaries, choosing to punish them all for his ignorance and lack of protecting his assets and property. So in a selfish manner, he decided to mete out his own brand of justice and punish all.
So I helped her pay her share of her rent due. I am not romantically involved with her, nor anything else as involved as you have admitted here.
I have not spoken to her since. I have no strings attached. I have no romantic involvement but for the simply altruistic assistance I provided to her.
I do care how they are for their welfare and well being, as one human being to another, and that is it. Perhaps she ran off and took a vacation with that money or she really needed it. So be it.
Now if this one example, and your one example, and the countless other examples are the proof in the pudding where things just are not on a level playing field, then I do believe that there are many in the same boats. Which then leads me to an entirely different debate.
Every person on this planet, in some form, judges and critiques what others do and how they act.
Members here do it to one another. Camgirls do it to the visitors in their rooms. Members do it to the women that work this industry. Models judge other models. Members judge other members. Omg.... all humans judge each other no matter who the f they are, or where they live or work.
What is most important is that we do it without any bias or in a manner that is selfish and narcisstic in manner. Yet, we all are biased and insert those biases into the way we view others and things.
What did you want me to do for you, reuters? Give you my approval and blessings? Argue with me intimately if we disagree on things you or I are doing? You are here seeking help of any sort, just like any other person. Yet, when and if someone does not agree or highlights some flaw, then ensues some type of flame war. Lol.... we all are human no matter what happens in the end.
It is obvious what you are doing and why you are doing it, and you do not need to explain further. I never told you to stop or not to stop but to admit you have strings attached although you keep saying no no and no.