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Of course you can say: "It's only theory, let's talk about practical things". But is it really?
After pussy, ass and tits, "blushing" is one of the most used words in sex chats! "Blushing" is the physical expression of shame and and can't be controled by mind!
The visitors tell it, regardless if the models does or not! So it must have a special meaning for them! From my point of view 2 explanations are possible:
If they cause this reaction, it shows them, that they have control over the model -it's an objective feedback, because the reaction can not be suppressed.
If they only tell it without reason, they want to point out that they are able to break taboos! As it could seen at many other objects in our societies, breaking taboos is often a way to the next kick!
Don't get me wrong! Breaking taboos is sometimes needed to change intolerable social conditions! But I doubt, that it should become a fun-factor!
If models are really blushing, then that cam-business is obviously not such shameless as it seems to be. (What do our model members think? Only imagination of visitors, really existing but only newbies?)
Many other facts point in the same direction:
I asked many, many models, which persons knows about their job. I could give many quotes here, but I will limit it to some typical. Most of them answered astonishingly frank: "nobody" or.. "Some good friends" After going into the last answer I got a more exact explanation: "...only some friends know about my job... girls help me to find costumes or hair style sometimes hehe, guys laugh and say they would like to work there too but i tell them all only funny aspects of this job, i cant tell how difficult to work there sometimes....."
BTW That model had (at least in the beginning) a very positive attitude to that job: "..... earlier "Keeps" saved me.. it was a good emotion"
Often I found a cartel of silence:husbands, bfs or parents could guess what has to be done there, but didn't dare to ask, because they fear the answers!
So are all these societies in Poland Russia or Ukraine reactionary?
I guess not. An easy explanation you can find in specific literature:
Shame is NOT a "pathological" feeling! It should be seen as regulative. That means, it is a social emotion which regulates social interactions between men. It already had been defined as 'custodian of human dignity'
Those social interaction can take place despite the long distance in cyberspace even if only under very special conditions. A model once told me:
"There is no real difference between nude in public or in pvt. Sense of shame -if u have it, or shamelessness- it will be the same here and there."
"There is just one point- i dont feel shame in common, only in one case when i know, that people, who never had pvt with me, who still respect me- they c me too, just like those who mean to me nothing or who apprehend me just as a sexy girl they like."
It's the well known situation of travel aquaintance. You might tell during travelling your whole life with many intimate details without any problems (you probably will see that person never again). You never would tell the same to someone who knows you better and thinks highly of you!
But very often shame is used by some parts of the society to push their moral ideas! This is coming along with the strong unpleasant feeling of being guilty!
It is hard to seperate, but this is NOT what I was talking about here!
What do you think? Is "shame" a necessary part of talking on this forum, or better leave it here? (Of course I would be interested to know why?)