Oooh, oooh, oooh--lola, over here, over here! I want to answer this question! Teacher, pick me, pick me!
(Sorry, just had a little flashback to my Catholic school days, when I was the smartest kid in the class and couldn't understand why the teachers wouldn't just let me answer all the questions they asked.)
So lola, the answer to your question about how long do I talk to the client before I show something is "thirty-one seconds." The reason for that is that the site I currently work for allows guys to enter chat for 30 seconds for free. So at thirty-one seconds, (at which time I assume that the client is gonna stick around for at least a few minutes), I take off my top.
I see my work camming as an opportunity to provide my clients with a personalized entertainment "product." I feel honored when a client decides to spend his entertainment budget on me, rather than to pay for a movie (and a drink and popcorn and licorice) or to attend a sporting event. I feel that when a client is paying me for my time, we have entered into a "covenant" in which I promise to provide the best entertainment experience I'm capable of delivering. I'm aware that almost everyone who takes me private has "come for the boobies," but I don't think I'm deluding myself when I imagine that the client often ends up "staying for the brains."
In another thread, I saw (I think it was UL) describe a model's personality (and humanity) as mere icing on the cake (the cake being a pair of hands, two funbags, and three hungry holes. Well, in my case, it's two hungry holes, but I digress). I know that when I personally am consuming an actual piece of cake, I always think of the cake as being an "icing-delivery system." In other words, the cake is great, but I would not be eating it if it did not have icing. I have a friend who bakes cakes and serves them without icing, and I always think to myself, "What's the point? Cake without icing is like a cam girl without a brain--an inferior product." If the client turns out to want nothing but the boobies, that's fine. But I'm going to deliver those boobies with as much icing as I can possibly manage. I think that's why I have such a loyal "fan base," guys who take me private almost every time they see me online.
Whew, I feel so much better now! Thanks for allowing me to become part of this conversation.