I think a lot of members DO read things like Camgirl just wrote. But the fact is, that most of them don't listen or they refuse to believe.
I see much of the same here on the forum. When our performer members actually speak up, they're usually flooded with replies contradicting and challenging them. And it makes me shake my head because so often the truth is right there in front of us. It continually amazes me that members think they know more than performers either by visiting and participating in videochat or by observing
videochat and perhaps talking with a performer or two on the side.
CGN is not a videochat site. The performers here have chosen to share much of the intimate goings on from the inside (and from many different perspectives), yet they always seem to get smothered and are told that we don't believe them or that we think we know better than they do about their
job. It's ridiculous. And offensive. And it's also one of the primary reasons more performers don't post.
Really, unless you're a sex worker yourself, what makes you think you have anything more than a cursory understanding of what it takes or means to be one? And to work in that environment and to know what really
Of course it's good to have discussion, and bring questions to light that others may not have thought of. But when members cross the line and start thinking that they know more than those who actually work in the business, and start to present themselves as an authority on this or that, it does more harm than good. For both other members and for performers.
If we're going to learn anything HERE at CGN, then we need to start listening more to our performer members than to the theories of our member members. Not that those theories shouldn't be heard, or that they don't matter, but they shouldn't be presented as FACT. Because the performers who are
vocal here have been telling it like it is. From the real
trenches. Not from the spectator seats.
fact is long overdue if CGN is going to mature into a forum that actually helps sex workers (the people, not the performers) practically. Which is what a majority of members here claim they wish to do. So I say, LISTEN. How can we know what kind of help they're really looking for if we don't ask them the question, and if we don't listen to their answers to that question as well as to their answers when they're trying to help US?
I completely understand when they're sometimes rude and dismissive regarding some of the things posted here. They're frustrated as hell trying to deal with the blinders and know-it-all attitudes some members just can't seem to get past at times.
Hopefully this is making some sense. Hopefully this is getting through. I'm not pointing a finger at anyone, but rather referencing CGN's entire non-model membership. The performers who post here in public do so more to help YOU understand, not the other way around. Though I'm sure they've learned some things as well, but not nearly what we can learn from them if we'd just listen.
The deal with the camgirl and the guy and the long private that was broadcast is a great example. Some valid lessons can be learned. About the relationship between prostitution and videochat. About the relationship between prostitutes and camgirls. About the fluid nature of perception from those on the outside of any
situation. About more than that too, but only when we open our ears and actually hear
what they're telling us.