I read the latest replies here and I don't disagree with any of it.
Self preservation in this business takes many different paths and direction.
That is a lot of people percentage wise. Basically you are saying that all these people are masking or internalizing and maybe subconsciously changing how they act when dealing with things that may cause stress, go against their principles, or performing things and actions they may personally never would do under "normal" or under different circumstances.
The issue here is two fold.
On one hand we are discussing how a model deals and handles members that seek real time meetings and the other hand is why members are actually seeking the real time meetings.
Your views and points are valid but the questions still is there, with the nagging problem.
Now to break it down further:
1) How do models deal with a member seeking extracurricular activities?
Well one can:
a) The use of sarcasm combined with no,no,no's to get the point across to the member, that nope, the model is not there for meeting anyone.
Same can be seen as with dealing with freeloaders and beggars.
b)Simple banning the member can be effective if they have been warned.
c) A model can play along to increase their earnings.
This is where the root cause and increases of the queries to ask for the meeting are created.
d)Actually genuinely be interested in a real time meeting for various reasons(Model is acttracted to the member and does want more involvement, or is scamming, feigning interest to earn more as well)
If you actually look at yourself,Noname, as well as most members here who are not models, one realizes that them and we are also part of the cause.
But of course, logically, without a models consent, no member would ever have the opportunity to get more intimate.
Above is some of the actions that can be done to stop it, or to continue creating an atmosphere of the attempts of members to try to hook up with any model for various reasons.
Sorry to use my experiences, but all of the attempts and successes to become more intimate within the models work environment to have a more personal relationship was initiated by the models.(Asking for messenger id's, asking for pics, phone numbers, emial addresses).
In the evolving interactive play and work of camming, it is now more acceptable, as for example, using MFC as one, where PM's, cam2cam, and of course private time, creates more intimacy, hence more possibilities for real meeting and/or personal involvements.
As to why a member thinks, believes, or attempts to meet a model,in real life, at the models place of business, could be caused and created by some of the posted reasons earlier in this thread.
There are members, who love to be that playboy and add a notch to their belt.
There are those who never even thought of attempting it, but hanging out in an evironment or "community" where they see others have succeeded would give them the impetus to try it for themselves.
Of course it is human nature for men and women to be attracted to each other, especially when both parties are exposing themselves for sexual entertainment.
But I believe the more personal and intimate the interactions are becoming and evolving with the social networking aspect of it, that it will never stop and I suggest it will only increase.
The question is how does a model stop it, or how do members "learn" a new skillset(pavlov experiment,i.e) to stop it from becoming all too common?
Well that is up to the models in my view, and also up to the websites promotions etc to stop extending some impressions upon the members that anything goes.
It always comes back to "you are responsible for your actions, and your actions may have unwanted consequences".
In a way there is no naivity of a member, because they know well enough that they have a chance or opportunity too "get lucky". And the reasons are because of the raffle contests, the past meetings that have occurred(successful or not), and the lack of professional distances between individuals.