Well thanks for asking me to re-read the links you provided again Uncle.
I think we are in agreement, and I myself may have always been understanding as to the sex workers sense of empowerment, freedom of choice and of free will,based upon rational logical decisions.
Bernstein's paper, comments much on the "middle class" and the decisions to choose a more lucrative form of employment. And the emotional exchanges or boundaries between them and their customers.
What I am pointing out is that since this article was written, that economic times have changed drastically.
That for many who find themselves in need of immediate employment, not so unusual from what the articles discuss for the middle class, that both choose it, and take upon the work primarily for the money.
Personally, I may not condone it mostly these days, but tolerate it and perhaps understand the choice of those who choose it over other forms of employment because they enjoy the work and their customers and the sexual acts, fantasy and entertainment of it all. For many they really enjoy many of aspects of the jobs as well.
What I am stating here, is not the work itself, but when the worker, goes out of their way to deceive an individual(customer) into "white-knightism", or creates some form of guilt complex that one feels compelled to "help" those who may not to some degree enjoy the work but have no other alternative opportunities available to them, irregardless of where they are located. That a persons poverty or lack of earning ability as a sex worker leads to other forms of manipulation.
Everyday, I come across a few chat hostesses, who for lack of better words or descriptions, take on the job of sex worker, because there are no other alternatives. That quite a few do it out of desperation, out of necessity, other than of free choice or free will. Even though they say it was their free will and choice to accept it. Well logically, I think there are many other factors that contribute to those decisions that people should take into account.
On top of that, some of them, seem to use other methods to deliberately, fool or manipulate customers, to become hooked on them, and then proceed to milk that cow dry, while not telling the truth or not using ethical practices or perhaps moral values.
Yes I know we all have argued and discussed these moral and ethical values heatedly,but to see it occur, one must say, what the fuck, or better, Why?
If a person such as camgirl or nocturne can make a good living not doing those things, then why do others in the same environments act in a different manner?
I have much respect for people who do "not" lie, deceive or cheat others where I feel the opportunity in such a setting, to do the worst can easily be done versus doing their jobs ethically and honestly.
I merely point out how one side is trying to be the "good" to some degree, while the other side is rearing its "bad and ugly" side of the job and quite honestly, exposing their own poor value system perhaps.
There is alot more that I have seen between the two individuals discussed here than has been revealed. That is up to the original poster to decide if and when and what they wish to share here. But most of us would not be happy with either participant, which leads back to the main premise of this topic. Who is naive and who's fault it may be.
I also would like to add, if many chat hostesses are doing this work as a means to pay for an education, based upon the latest statistics of available good paying non sex careers, that the current state of affairs, economically, do not provide enough availablity for them when their educations are completed. So sex work becomes or remains their only viable employment available even after a degree or degrees have been obtained.
One can also take note, that females are becoming the majority of the student population over males these days. Which leads one to ponder, if women were to overtake men in earning power,in acheived educational degrees, etc., where will all the big spenders of the future(male customers) with the liquidity and purchasing power come from in the future. Perhaps, there will be more female customers enjoying the entertainment that male members crave. Just a thought.