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I've been talking with this camgirl for a several months. I just turned 25, she's nearly 22, we're both from Europe (I live in the west, she in the east) I thought we had a lot of things in common (from music to temperament) and I really like (or liked I don't knwo anymore) her. I have, to my mind, treated her as I'd have treated a girl I liked in real life - even better (I don't pay to talk to girls in real life). I have never asked her to undress for me or touch herself or whatever. I don't see her that way and I'm not really interested in virtual sex (why I was on that website then, is another unrelated story and it has nothing to do with my being lonely, I'm not). I don't claim to be in love with her and she doesn't claim that either (I don't think one falls in love like that).
Anyway, she originally gave me what she now claims to be a false country and a semi-false name (the name's closely related to her supposed real name but it's not her real name). I understand why she'd do that since camming is illegal where she (supposedly at least) lives. In the past, she generally semi-jokingly said that she would like to move from her country but couldn't leave her parents alone there. She also, again, semi-jokingly said (more than a few times) that she'd like to travel and sometimes suggested, we could do it together (red flag, I know). But that was very casual, friendly talk. Nothing too serious. Still, whenever I suggested any kind of meeting in a sort of casual way, she'd be somewhat guarded. She was not magnificently eager to meet. I understand that since it was very early in our discussions.
Fast forward a few months, I told her I liked her and thought about her. I didn't really wanted to like her and I didn't think people could possibly feel like that about someone on the net. I thought it was retarded and I still think that but I can't help how I feel.
So a few talks after my telling her I like her - btw she said she liked me too and I told her that she doesn't have to sell me camgirl talk but she said she wasn't, etc, etc - and she suggested that we meet in a different country. I didn't understand why she wanted that (I do now), she said I might find her city boring (I don't think so) and that people there don't speak English well (that's true, I checked, it's a problem for many tourists). She finally agreed to meeting in HER country and even gave me a date and a venue (a concert - band's very popular American one so I checked and it's legit). We were talking about a friend of hers on that camsite (he's old) who went and found a camgirl in another country and was gonna propose to her. I know who that guy is (seen his messages) and I think she's saying the truth about that. That's what sort of prompted her invitation and that's what made her tell me her (supposedly) real details. She was wondering whether the other girl was gonna come up with an excuse not to meet her friend but she was surprised when she learned that they finally met. She also wondered how her friend could possibly love her from the internet so as to want to meet her. That's when I came in and told her that I'd do the same (I'd go meet her) if she allowed me to. So she gave me a date and a venue.
Next meeting we were talking about her and I told her I really do care about her. After a while, she mentioned that her grandfather is likely to suffer from cancer (as red as a flag can get, I know) and that she has to pay the doctors since they're apparently quite corrupt (the doctors bit I could believe entirely - though not sure what to think about her grandpa). She still doesn't know the diagnosis though and she claims that is because corrupt doctors want money and won't do much if they don't get it. Her parents she says do not want to pay because they think it's a matter of principle - free healthcare, etc.
Now, I have told her I know she makes a lot of money, etc, etc so she knows I know that she ain't poor and she hasn't asked me for anything so far. But, something I didn't mention earlier, she would always say she couldn't travel 'cos she didn't have any money to (another red flag). But, that might really be so. If she's saving money to get out and if she's helping her parents (as she says she does), I don't know whether she'd have enough to travel even on her salary.
Anyways, I confronted her about her story. I told her the story sounded classically scammy and she couldn't understand why I behaved like that since she thought she did nothing wrong and she only wanted someone to share her problems with. Even though I told her that she didn't have to tell me she likes me for me to continue talking to her, she said she didn't say it because of that. She got tears in her eyes when I told her that so I decided to drop it.
I don't know if I am being cruel but it's truly a classical scam story. I couldn't believe anyone would play with the feelings of others - especially for someone who hasn't treated her badly in any way and was as respectful as you can be... I paid her entirely to talk to me. Haven't seen anything I wouldn't have seen on a first date with a girl. But I now know scams like that are quite common. I simply don't know what to think anymore.